What’s in mind at the start of the second stage of caring?

From now on, the elderly taking care of the elderly will be a common thing? I think my care for mom has been in the second stage of the caring process.

I may not be able to take care of mom soon. Her legs are now very frail. Since last night, she fell down on the tatami floor four times from the bed when she wanted to go to the bathroom.

When my dad was alive, mom told him that she couldn’t take care of him any longer. She gave up caring for him who could not stop dripping stool. Dad was transferred to a nursing home, then a hospital where he passed away at the age of 92.

Maybe soon the time comes when I have to decide what to do with mom, to keep caring for her at home, or to send her to some elderly facility. In the latter case, as I wrote before, she should get the excessive prescription due to her volatile character which means she would be inactive and lethargic, difficult to communicate with others. In a word, she would be a woman I have never known.

Each time mom falls down, she hurts some parts of her body: thumb, fingers, shoulder, waist ,,,.

Another bad thing for me is that she was a sociable woman. Without anybody to talk to, she can’t live a single day. When alone, she continues to talk to herself so that I can’t concentrate on my work. “It hurts, I’m lonely, why I am here? Is anybody there? When I don’t respond to her, “Hyde” appears, gets angry, or weeps.

I asked her to go to a daycare center three times a week like her younger sister. Then, while she is away, I could do what I want to or have to do. However, she was adamant in denying my proposal. “You wonna kick me out?! This is my house! You go away!!”

I believe I could go through it. I don’t know why I am so confident in myself. Maybe I could have lived to the age to know what to expect after all of this.

From now on, the elderly taking care of the elderly will be a common thing? I think my care for mom has been in the second stage of the caring process.

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